On Babysitters and Neighbor Love


As a father of two daughters, I sometimes offer them advice on their various endeavors. One endeavor for our oldest daughter was to build a thriving babysitting business in her mid-teen years. Since my wife, Patti, and I had previous experience “employing” babysitters to keep watch over our home and children, I felt qualified to offer constructive advice that might help our daughter succeed.

My advice about babysitting focused on two, simple actions:

First, she should resist the urge to be on her phone and social media, and should instead actively engage and play with the kids until their bedtime.

Second, after putting the kids to bed, she should tidy the house or apartment—especially the main living space, sink, and kitchen—so that when the parents arrived home, the house would be in better shape at the end of the evening than it was at the beginning.

Thankfully, our daughter embraced and implemented this advice. Before long, she was getting so many babysitting opportunities that she had to start referring some parents to her friends. These two, simple actions of playing with the kids and cleaning the home made her the favorite babysitter to the kids and the parents of virtually every family that she served. Even now, when a break from college is on the horizon, parents will line up to “preorder” her babysitting services for the weeks she will be at home. You might say that she has positioned herself, from a consistent commitment to be fully present with people—and to consistently care for places and things—to enjoy “the favor of all the parents.”

Whatever one’s place in life, age, or influence, all Christians are called as Christ’s ambassadors into the places where they live, work, play, and worship, with the glorious purpose of leaving it better than they found it. This is, we might say, the universal Christian job description.

This dynamic was pervasive especially among first-century Christians, whose life of love toward one another, toward their neighbors, and toward the towns and cities in which they lived, caused them to enjoy “the favor of all the people” (Acts 2:47). Their neighbors, whether Christian or not, came to value and esteem them as a life-giving part of their own lives.

These Christians did not feel a need to become a powerful “moral majority” in order to impact the world around them for they realized, as Jesus had clearly told them, that his kingdom is not of this world (John 18:36). Rather than control the world through coercive and politically partisan force, Jesus’ method was to win the world through the persuasive power of kindness and neighbor love.

Indeed, Jesus and his tribe of followers gained favor and influence by living among their neighbors and colleagues—including those who were poor, marginalized, and forgotten—as an intentional, creative, love-driven, and life-giving minority. As they freely gave to their neighbors the gift of love, service, and presence, they seized every opportunity to leave places and things better than they found them. It would be fair to say that if these Christians were taken out of the world, their neighbors would have sorely missed them.

Sadly, we in the 21st-century West have in many ways let this universal job description for living as a love-driven, life-giving minority slip away. Rather than denying ourselves, taking up our crosses, and following Jesus, many of us have instead opted instead to deny our neighbors and take up our comforts…all in an attempt protect our own interests and follow our personal dreams.

As the haunting lyric from singer-songwriter Jason Isbell reminds us, “Your creature comforts aren’t the only things worth fighting for.”

Perhaps lyrics like these can function as a clarion call to Christians to return to our roots and to once again live as Jesus’ ambassadors, aroma, and “sent ones” for the healing and restoration and rejuvenation of our tired, sin-sick world. Now is the time to repent of the ways we have contributed to the world’s sorrow and brokenness, and instead seek to be a healing agent of the world’s sorrow and brokenness.

Let’s begin today, shall we?

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7 responses to “On Babysitters and Neighbor Love”

  1. Debbra Stephens says:

    Terribly guilty of this: “opted instead to deny [my] neighbors and take up [my] comforts…all in an attempt protect [my] own interests and follow [my] personal dreams.” Thanks for the conviction that sets me on the path of prayer and repentance. And thanks for shining the light of awareness to this eternal truth. Praying we love better–that this reaches the masses that wear His name…for change. May the Spirit continue to fill you with the words this world needs to hear.

  2. Bill Burnette says:

    Amen brother. Too many of us have decided our calling is to take God’s rule book and beat others over the head with it until they come around to our way of thinking. News flash- it ain’t workin’.

    • Greg says:

      I definately agree with Pastor Sauls that we need to demonstrate to this world the fruits of the gospel such as kindness, goodness, peace and love. At the same time, since “love delights in the truth” (1cor 13) we must sacrificially proclaim to lost people a gospel that saves us from our sin, and sin is illuminated by the law and conscience. Spiritual fruit is born in no other way. Repentance from disobedience, selfishness and pride illuminated by the letter is necessary for the Spirit to give new life and forgiveness. I find the strategies of some who try so hard to impress people into the kingdom troubling because this comes at the expense of these missing recognition of the true need of forgiveness because they become innoculated from recognition, ownership and sorrow over their sin and disobedience against our mighty God. Such a strategy is wholely unloving.

      If this message of the only gospel that saves us from our sins is seen as offensive and thus unloving to those who are perishing in their sins, then we must be prepared for forms of persecution and rejection and possibly a season of lessening church attendence. (Heaven forbid) . We should NEVER decide this to be unloving, but rather the greatest form of love regardless of what reaction the world brings. The crowds ultimately rejected Jesus and along with some favor in that 1st century church came much persecution…yet God’s kindgom blossomed long term as the church found God’s transformative power in the proclaimation of the gospel!

      I get a kick watching my wife and daughters become gidy over movies that depict the humble, simple and truly caring guy rescuing the girl from the other guy who unlovingly treats the girl l like a business enterprise or pretty picture on display next to him to impress others at a dinner party. I think to myself, true lovingness so longed for in the voids of our hearts can be found nowhere but through God who is love and who loves the world that He gave us His Son that can transform mankind’s hearts of stone, cold and selfish into hearts of flesh filled with compassion, sincerity, true humility and love for God and neighbor. I am not ashamed of the gospel for IT has the power unto salvation!

    • Rhonda Hillis says:

      Amen. It sure aint

  3. Sylvia Lange says:

    Sooo well said.

  4. Jerrie Barham says:

    Thank you so much for this message. I need to let the Spirit convict and guide me on these very things.

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