Why Porn and Internet Shaming are Basically the Same Thing

 

New York Times writer Tim Kreider coined the term, “Outrage Porn,” to describe what he sees as our insatiable search for things to be offended by. Based on hundreds of comments and letters to the editor, Kreider says that many contemporary people feed off of feeling 1) right and 2) wronged. Outrage Porn resembles actual pornography. It aims for a cheap, orgasmic thrill at the expense of another human being, but without any personal accountability or commitment to that human being.

Outrage Porn often escalates into the public shaming of groups and persons. Labeling, caricature and exclusion occur as offended parties rally together against a common enemy.

There are many forms of online shaming. There is passive-aggressive shaming via the non-responsive ignoring of personal emails, comments and tweets. A person gets singled out via an unflattering photo shared without permission and intended to mock. Another is left out of a group selfie that says, “You are not one of us.”

Active-aggressive shaming is more direct. The angry blog, the critical tweet, the vicious comment on Facebook, or whatever the method – people try to hurt people. Sometimes the shaming escalates into a mob, a faux-community that latches on to the negative verdict and piles on.  Under the pretense of righteous indignation, the mob licks its chops as it goes about demonizing, diminishing and destroying its target.

The Power of Shame

Andy Stanley once said in a sermon that it would take just five poorly chosen words, spoken in the wrong setting, to destroy him personally and professionally. This nightmare came true for Justine Sacco, a PR consultant who posted an offensive tweet – just twelve words to her 170 followers – while boarding a flight to South Africa. When her plane landed, she discovered that her tweet had gone viral. In a few short hours she had become the headline, the inhumane bigot and common enemy to tens of thousands of people. On the basis of those twelve words, she lost her career and the life she once knew. Anything good she had done prior to the infamous tweet became as a vapor. Looking back on the incident, Sacco reflected:

I had a great career, and I loved my job, and it was taken away from me, and there was a lot of glory in that. Everybody else was happy about that.

Imagine for a moment. Your entire life, all you had ever done or worked for, reduced to a single, ten-second lapse in character and judgment. And those who brought you down? They never met or heard of you before today, and will never again think of you after today. To those who brought you down, your name was never sacred. Rather, it was a pornographic product – Outrage Porn – to be consumed and evangelized as the latest cheap thrill. Your character assassins will never have to look you in the eye. Nor will they be held accountable for turning you into a nothing, or for their blatant disregard for your whole, image-bearing person.

Scripture and Shame

Outrage Porn is not new. The holier-than-thou New Testament Pharisees “trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and looked down on others with contempt” (Luke 18:9). It’s there in Simon the Pharisee as he shames the woman anointing Jesus with perfume and washing his feet with her tears and hair. She is “a sinner.” Not a person, but a thing. Not a woman, but an animal. Not the image of God, but sub-human trash (Luke 7:36-50). It’s also there in those who brand the woman caught in adultery with a Scarlet Letter. The mob encircles her, ready to pile on and destroy. Had Jesus not intervened, they would have destroyed her just like the Internet mob destroyed Justine Sacco for her single act, the act that she apologized for through tears. But apologies don’t make good stories, do they? They aren’t as tweetable.

What Shame Tells Us About Ourselves

The pious Pharisee’s bravado and righteous indignation is just a mask for self-justification. Forming a mob around a common enemy – around “the sinners” – was the groupthink of deeply insecure, small men looking for a way to medicate their own small egos at the expense of a scapegoat – a scapegoat who was no more shame-worthy than they.

When tempted to join the mob and to shame, maybe we should shift our eyes from the computer screen to the mirror. Maybe we should ask ourselves why we, too, enjoy the caricature and the labeling. Maybe we should ask ourselves why we, too, are prone to “Like” and “Share” when someone else’s whole life is reduced to their most foolish, offensive – and profusely-apologized-for-through-tears-like-Justine-Sacco-did – public moment.

A Better Way Forward?

As a Christian who is active on social media, I often remind myself that each image-bearing name is sacred. The ninth commandment, which warns against bearing false testimony of any kind about one’s neighbor, must remain in the forefront. I must remove all negative caricature – the exaggeration of someone’s worst features and the censoring out of her or his best ones – from my words, both spoken and written. It is unChristian to bless God while cursing a person with a soul.

What if instead of condemnation, we became known for giving benediction? What if instead of being on the hunt to catch people doing wrong, we went on the hunt to catch people doing right? What if instead of looking for someone to curse, we started looking for someone to bless? What if instead of naming people according to their worst behaviors and features, we named them according to their best and most God-reflecting ones?

Even When The Shameful Story Is True

And when the damning narrative is true? When the horrible account about a person is more reality than caricature? Even when this is the case, humble restraint and self-reflection should be the starting point. When Ham exposed Noah for his drunkenness and nakedness, Shem and Japheth did not join in the exposing. Instead, they reversed it. Looking away from the nakedness of their drunk Dad, they respectfully covered him. In covering his nakedness, the two brothers also covered and restored Noah’s good name. For this, the two received a blessing. Ham received a curse.

And we all tremble at the thought of receiving a curse for tearing down a name and doing violence to a soul.

Or do we?


This is an adapted excerpt from Befriend: Create Belonging in an Age of Judgment, Isolation and Fear. Used by permission of Tyndale House.


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  • Deborah Mayhew
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    So wish/pray this article makes a difference for at least one person! The world has gone crazy.

    (The definition of the word “pornography” is only sexually related and, for me, distracts from the message.)

  • Kurt Merlin Wintersteiner
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    Dear Scott,
    Your article touched me … as it shows, that there is still a long way to go for mankind to becom human.
    And yes, we have to start at ourselves … love ourselves to be able to love our neighbour, unconditional.
    And yes, there is hope … to accept the unconditional love by God (or however you name HIM / HER) and spread this love around.
    You can’t fight against darkness … but simply switch on the light = love.

  • Rochelle Raimao
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    A conversation well framed, and way overdue. Thank you for taking this one up.
    I agree that a different title may help this navigate to a different audience than those who will click because of how provocative and pertinent to them this existing title is.

  • Bev
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    Kurt (above) is right – Porn and what you are talking about are nowhere near the same thing. Why do you use sexual innuendo or explicit sexual comment such as “orgasmic thrill” (really??!!) to communicate on this or any topic..too many preachers are trying to be “cool” by incorporating the language of the world…. some kind of a runoff for a desire to be considered “relevant” – I guess??? Contradicts Christianity that is pure, etc ..maybe it’s part of the trend of the “Submergent Church”, as I have coined it.

    • scottsauls
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      Actually, I have no interest in being cool or relevant. Curious if you have ever read the Song of Solomon? Additionally, “porn” is a direct derivative from “porneia,” which is the New Testament Greek word used for immorality.

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